When it comes to family, people sometimes say “you need to be in their lives”, but they don’t mean just living with them in the same place. You need to engage in their world.
I have three brothers, and everyone of us has different interests. If we’re gonna rely on common activities to spend time together, then we might not see each others at all. It’s sometimes not enough to find a particular activity that you both enjoy and then set a date to do it together. That might be good for little bonding, but can you do better? Of course!
Instead of focusing too much on yourself and whether you’re gonna enjoy doing a specific activity with your sibling/child, you should join them in what they’re already doing. Yes I know that sometimes what they like is boring to you, but if you want to truly be in their lives you should show some interest in what they’re doing and join them.
Think about how this will affect them. They will definitely enjoy it and appreciate you giving some of your time to join them and see what they like to do. And who knows? You might enjoy that specific activity as well. Life is not just about ourselves and doing what we like to do. What’s the point if we’re not gonna share it with the people we love?