No, this is not a post about the song from the Disney movie. This is about life. It’s about one of the hardest lessons you’ll learn. Letting go. Moving on.
The human’s life is made of consecutive stages. First, you’re a toddler: unaware of the world around you and still learning and exploring. Then you grow a little, but still a kid. Life is still great. You only see the good things in the world and the good things in people. You’re innocent, pure, full of life, and simply happy. Then comes puberty and teenage. You see the ugliness of the world for the first time. You see everything as it really is. It becomes hard for you to believe that there’s any goodness left. Then you go into your twenties. You’re an adult, but with a young spirit. You’re still reckless, maybe a little irresponsible, but expected to be fully mature. A dilemma; a state of confusion. Making it into the real world is scary. You face challenges and end up in unpredictable situations.
The hardest change is becoming an adult. In the first three phases you change without your will. Your body forces you to move from one stage to another. But during adulthood your body stays the same for a while and your mind and personality develop. This is where we choose whether to grow up and move on or get stuck in the ‘young and immature’ phase. It is very tempting to live a late teenage. You ask yourself “why do I have to grow up?” “why do I have to be responsible? I like it that way!” . But unfortunately you can’t stay like that for too long. You have to let it go and move on at some point. Maybe you don’t feel it now, but when you’re forty and look at yourself in the mirror and see the wrinkles starting to appear, you will know that it’s not a joke anymore. So yeah, it is hard to leave the life of ‘careless, young, and free’, but this is how things happen. If you refused to become a teenager and decided to stay a kid forever, do you think this will work? It’s the same thing for adulthood.
I am in my 21st year of life and I’ve been suffering from adulthood blues. I just couldn’t imagine leaving the fun life of being a college student and becoming a responsible adult with a full-time job. But I learned it the hard way. Apparently, every one around you will move on and you’ll find yourself stuck in a weird place. You can’t be teenager, and you won’t allow yourself to be an adult either. So to avoid the confusion and depression, I suggest you just get it over with and accept the harsh reality. Maybe adulthood has it’s advantages, and maybe you will still be able to have fun. So don’t forbid yourself from seeing what life has in store for you. Wish you all a happy life.
Peace and love.