8 Things I Wish I Knew In High School

I’ve been through high school and college. There are certain things I learned during those two experiences. I have to admit that I was a brat back in high school. I was a teenager who’s not easy to deal with. I made mistakes and apparently I made them again in college. I never listened, and that was my biggest problem. Anyway, here are the 8 things I wish I knew in high school that you probably ought to know yourself.

1. Study hard, it might save your a** later!
Pay attention to your studies. Knowledge is power. You can have fun all you want, but don’t forget to study because this is why you go to school in the first place.

2. Get over yourself because the world doesn’t revolve around you.
All that teenage drama is worthless. Trust me, no one cares! The earth is still rotating and life goes on.

3. Our parents know what they are talking about.
Yeah they do, so you better listen carefully next time! They have enough experience to give good advice.

4. Life is NOT easy, it never was, and never will be.
Don’t expect to go anywhere in life if you’re not willing to work hard. Again, you can ask your parents about that.

5. “Do what you love” is not always the right thing to do for a job.
It’s nice to go every morning to a job you love, but that’s not always the case. What you love to do can be your hobby during your spare time. As for a job, let me be frank with you, you need something that will put food on the table. What you love might not be available, or might not help you make living. Wait! I’ll take that one back.

6. Don’t be naïve, life can screw you up.
It’s good to be positive, but don’t forget to be realistic. Don’t expect that the moment you graduate high school you’re gonna get into a fine college, get a degree, graduate, get a high-paying job, get the car of your childhood dreams, and a stylish house! Although you can do all that, don’t expect it to happen easily and smoothly. Again check #4.

7. When it’s over, it’s over!
When high school/college is over, don’t start crying and get emotionally attached to it. I learned it the hard way. Apparently, you have to move on! Life is made of successive stages, you can’t get stuck in one of them. When it’s time to let go, you have to let go so that you can continue the journey of life.

8. And finally, enjoy it while it lasts.
Make friends, try new things, go out and see the world, and create everlasting memories. This could be the time of your life. You are still young and worry-free with no huge responsibilities, so enjoy it.

How I lost The Weight

I’ve already shared with you the reasons for why I decided to lose weight and the things you should know before losing weight. Now it’s time to tell you how I did it.

As I said before, it’s very important for you to educate yourself before you start this journey. So basically the first thing I did was reading articles, blog posts, weight-loss success stories, and other things related to nutrition and fitness before I started doing any change. After that I had a base to start with. I kept building my knowledge throughout the journey.

What exactly do you have to read? You have to read about food and the basics of nutrition. Like how your body works when it takes food in, and how the food you eat affects your body, what are nutrients, how important each one is, how to eat a balanced diet…etc. You also have to understand what calories are, how much you need of them, and how much you should burn.
Another topic is fitness. You need to read about exercising and how it affects your body, read about the different kind of exercises, read about muscles and fats and the difference between them…etc.

Next thing you need to do is to be honest with yourself and prepare mentally for the lifestyle change. Sit alone and say, or write down, the reasons why you really want to lose weight. When you know your reasons very well and prepare your mind for it, you’ll be ready to apply your knowledge of health and wellness in your everyday life. Being psychologically prepared and accepting your new lifestyle are very vital for weight loss success. Because if you don’t have enough willpower for it then trust me, no one and I mean NO one in this world can make you lose weight. On the other hand, if you are determined to do it, then no person or thing can stop you from reaching your goal.

Weight loss is not magic. It’s really simple. You need to change your eating habits and start exercising. I know it’s been said so many times, but that’s because it’s the only way. You know why some people fail in losing weight? In my opinion (and from my observation of few people I know) it’s because they are not willing to educate themselves about it, and are not willing to give it all their best. They want to lose weight as fast as they can so they become thin. And they usually think of the process as a burden or as a deprivation from the joys of life. Pretty shallow and immature, right? What I want you to know is that it’s NOT impossible and it IS simple just if you decided so.

What I did after educating myself and preparing mentally was taking certain steps to change my lifestyle. First thing is my diet. These are the changes I made:
– Reducing portion sizes
– Quitting soft drinks
– Controlling dessert intake
– Replacing fried food with grilled, boiled, or raw food
– Stop eating highly-processed food as much as possible
– No eating when not hungry
– Stop eating when full
– Consuming the required amount of calories
– Snacking on healthy food
– Try to have 6 small meals instead of 3 big ones (not always possible for me)
– Adding more fruits and vegetables to my diet
– Drinking more water
– Replacing sugary juices and other drinks with unsweetened tea, coffee, and natural herbs
There are other changes you can make, and of course you can discuss it with a nutritionist as they would guide you to how to maintain a healthy balanced diet.

Second thing is exercising. You need to exercise in order to burn calories and lose weight. It is also important for your muscles and keeping your bones and joints strong. In addition that it’s necessary for your heart’s health. I started exercising at home. I bought a stepper, jumping rope, exercising mat (or whatever it’s called), dumbbells, and worked out. I’d do step aerobics 3 times a week, other cardio exercises 2 times a week, and strength training 2 times a week. You can choose the exercising routine that suits you. You can go to the gym of course and get a personal trainer to help you. Whatever the exercise is, the idea is to move. You may enjoy walking, or swimming, or basketball, it doesn’t matter. Find the exercise that you like and do it.

So you see, this is how it happened. It’s simple, isn’t it? It’s not easy for sure, but it’s gonna be worth it! And to everyone who can’t afford a nutritionist or a gym membership, guess what? I did it without a nutritionist or a personal trainer or a gym membership or even a treadmill at home! That’s why I told you that if you really want to do it, nothing can stop you. I lost 19 kilos (about 42 lbs) so far and still have some kilos to lose to reach my weight loss goal.  I did gain some weight back (4 kilos), because I’ve let stress sabotage my health, which I am going to talk about in a later post. Anyway, I am back on track and hopefully will continue to lose weight and live a healthy life.

Losing weight is a really good journey that you will enjoy and learn a lot from, so don’t look for a quick fix and deprive yourself from this experience. Find your strength and your motivation and you will be invincible. So what are you waiting for? You CAN do it!!

Chasing Perfection

Some of us are perfectionists. A perfectionist is someone who wants everything in his/her life to be perfect. Not just everything, but also everyone. Little do they know that they themselves aren’t perfect. Even if you tend to do everything in a seemingly flawless way, you can never make it perfect. We are human beings and that’s who we are; we make mistakes. Life itself isn’t perfect. Nothing is perfect.

Chasing perfection can only bring you misery. It can leave you disappointed in many situations, such as in work, relationships…etc. The reason for this is that you are looking for something that doesn’t exist. You are looking for faultless things or people. You are looking for an unreal life. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be happy or wanting to have great friends or to have the best house in the neighborhood, it’s just that you have to be realistic about it.

I have to admit that I was a perfectionist, a stubborn idealistic perfectionist. I would get mad if things didn’t go as I planned or someone doesn’t do things my way. I’d throw the “imperfect” people out of my life and look for someone who has it all. I’d leave a workgroup if they won’t follow my instructions or do what I suggest to them. And when I wouldn’t be able to get rid of those people or workmates, I’d keep it to myself and end up with accumulated anger inside me. Not healthy at all! It used to make me stressed and ready to blow up any second. I’d leave no room for negotiation. Even if I pretended to hear what people say, in the end I do what I want. I ended a friendship with someone and was about to do it again with another person for this reason. It affected me and my life generally.

The solution for my problem was learning how to be flexible and tolerate others. Things will not always go our way, and we have to be okay with it. We have to accept the little imperfections in our lives. And most importantly, we have to accept the flaws in other people. At the end of the day those “imperfections” and “flaws” are what makes our life different and what makes us special. I learned to listen to other people’s opinions and see what they have to offer. Maybe if I tried things their way it would be better this time. I learned to not get frustrated when certain situations don’t end up the way I planned or pictured in my head. I also learned to love people the way they are and accept the fact that they have flaws just like me. I don’t have to change them to fit my list of high expectations, because I wouldn’t want someone to compare me to a list either. I started to look at my own flaws and see what I can improve instead of criticizing others. All in all, it had good results. I don’t stress about every single detail in my life or my relationship with others around me anymore. I don’t have to pile anything inside me because now I listen and tell my honest opinion. But this doesn’t mean I don’t do my best at work, or let people treat me as a doormat. You have to work hard in your life to get what you want and look hard to find the people you want to be with. Just be realistic when you’re doing it, and accept the results.

Remember, we all make mistakes and we all have flaws. Life isn’t perfect and things won’t always go your way. But if you learned to accept things and people the way they are, you won’t end up being a miserable selfish lone. You will be happy and grateful. You will finally see your life as being perfect.