On Being Negative

I was reading some articles on the internet today and stumbled upon this piece. I recommend it as it contains great advice and applicable techniques to get rid of the negative energy in your life.



Living In The Moment

A lot of times we dwell in the past or keep worrying about the future, then we wonder why we’re not happy with our lives. We seem to be focusing on only two aspects: the past and the future, forgetting that the present exists. This is called missing out on life. Then what is the present? And how is it important?

Let’s start with the past. The past is the part of your life that already happened which you can’t change anything about, or the time that passed from your life that you can never get back. We all make mistakes, and that’s normal. We’ve all done things in the past that we regret and wish we can undo, but that can never happen. Does that mean we should sit and cry about it? Does it mean we should dwell in it and forget the life going on right now? No and no! The only two things we can use the past for are either learning from our mistakes or remembering the good memories. If you used the past for anything other than those two you are sure to be opening the door for misery in your life.

Moving on to the future. The future is the part of your life that is yet to come and you are in control of. A lot of us keep thinking about it, stressing out, and worrying about how their lives are going to be in the future. I am guilty of this. Back in high school I remember that 80% of my thoughts were about the future and NOT in a positive way. If you are not going to actually do something about it then you better off not thinking about it. The future should be used as a source of hope and dreams coming true. It should affect you positively, making you a determined hard worker. Other than that, again, no need to bring the subject up.

What about the present? The present is now. The present is what’s going on. The present is the happening. The present is your life! It is going to be your past and what your future will be. So in order to be satisfied with your life you have to live in the present. Make the best out of it. Even if you made mistakes, it’s ok. But you go to live the moment. That’s what you should think of; the present. You have to be thankful that you are alive and still can do plenty of things. You should be grateful for all that surrounds you at this very moment, whether it’s your family, friends, the house you live in, a job you have…etc. Because after all what matters is how you feel right now.

So what is the relation between the three of them? The present is what you make now that someday will be a memory. That’s when your past will be just some experiences you had in life that allows you to learn, grow, and change. Also what you make right now is your way of building a bright future, the one you’ve always been dreaming of. Learning from your past allows you to live a better present and in turn leads to a better future. So use the past in a positive way and work in your present for the future. At the end, I want you to take a deep breath and ponder the moment instead of stressing out about your future or crying over spilled milk.

Wish you all a joyful life.

Why I Decided To Lose Weight

As I said before, I want to share with you my weight loss journey. It’s about time to tell my story of how I lost 19 kgs (about 42 lbs) and still going.

To start, I wanna show you parts of my journal to give you an idea of what was going on in my mind then.

Saturday, Jan 28, 2012

“When you have a pair of black jeans that fits you really well and one day you can’t get in it, you know you’ve got a serious weight gain problem”

“I bought those lovely coats for winter but because I gained about 5 kgs (11 lbs) I couldn’t wear them to college. I got on the scale and I found out the sad truth that I weigh about 80 kgs (176 lbs)!! Since I am 156 cm (5 feet 1) this is not acceptable AT ALL!!! Then I realized I can’t wait anymore to start losing weight.”

“I don’t want to say I am going to ‘diet’, no! I want to change my life style. I don’t want to lose weight to fit in a dress for a party or something. No, I want to have a healthy body and feel good about myself. Beside that I don’t want to learn that I have diabetes or high blood pressure when I turn 30.”

“So my goal is to be 50 kgs (110 lbs) which means I have to lose 25 kgs (55 lbs). This is not an easy thing and it’s gonna take time and will need patience and perseverance. I will do it.”

I’ve been overweight since I was a child and became obese in my late teens. I was in some kind of denial that I am obese. I was well-aware that I needed to lose weight, but not that much. I’ve always wanted to lose weight and never was comfortable in my own skin. When I was 18, in the summer of 2011, I decided that enough is enough. I was determined to lose the 25 kgs and start the junior year in college with a new thin body. Of course I failed. Not only I didn’t lose weight, but gained another 3 kgs (about 7 lbs)! I was crushed.

I then decided to accept the fact that I’ll never be thin and I have to deal with my fat body in another way. So I went to shop for baggy and loose clothes to hide my body. I bought two floral blouses that were ugly as dog vomit. I only bought them because they were loose. I wanted to wear one of them with a black pair of jeans I had to college in the first day in junior year. Guess what? The jeans didn’t fit me. I was crushed even more.

During the first semester of junior year, my body was screaming “please I want to be healthy”. I used to have these awful headaches every single morning, which ruins the rest of the day. I used to feel heavy when I walk. My knees and my back couldn’t bear the weight. I wasn’t in a good physical condition, and that interfered with my everyday life. I wasn’t able to study well or concentrate in the lectures. It was also hard to remember things. In addition to feeling fatigued most of the day and lacking energy to do anything productive. I felt like I was 80 not 18!! Around the end of the first semester in junior year, I came to the realization that I should lose weight for myself and for my body to be healthier.

The reason behind my failure in the first attempt was that I did not educate myself about nutrition, exercise, weight loss, and so on, besides setting an unrealistic goal of losing 25 kgs in 2 months. I was aiming for a ‘thin’ body instead of a ‘healthy’ body, and that’s why I wasn’t motivated enough. When it was winter break, January of 2012, I started this lifestyle change. That’s when I wrote my journal entries I posted above.

How I got to being obese? Bad eating habits and no physical activity; simply sedentary lifestyle. So in order for me to achieve my weight loss goal and become healthier, I had to change the way I live. I had to change my mentality. And guess what? This time I was able to do it! During the two-week winter break I lost 3 kgs. The second semester started and I kept losing weight. I felt great!! It was like bringing life back to my body. It was the best decision I’ve ever made in my life.

Someone on the web asked a question to healthy people about why they choose to eat healthy and deprive themselves from the “delicious” fast food and sugary treats. My answer was

“I chose to do that to enjoy life. I changed my lifestyle because I wanted to be healthier, lighter, more energetic, be able to do more things, enjoy eating REAL delicious food, feel younger, avoid having diabetes and heart disease when I get older, and mostly important to appreciate the body I have. If you don’t do that, it’s like you don’t care about your body and you treat it like a garbage can, dumping anything and everything harmful and unhealthy in it. Also, you learn to have self-control and be able to resist temptations and actually feel good and proud of yourself.”

Like I said, being healthy has loads of advantages. You’ll feel youthful, happier, more active and radiant. You will feel so good about yourself and your self-confidence and self-esteem will increase. My life instantly got better from that point.  Here’s another entry from my journal I wrote in the beginning of senior year.

Sunday, October 7, 2012

“I’ve started this lifestyle change on January 29th 2012. I’ve lost 13 kilos (about 29 lbs) so far, and I’m so proud of my accomplishment. Though I still didn’t reach my goal, which is 9 kilos (about 20 lbs) away, my life already changed. First, I look thinner. Second, I feel lighter and more energetic. Third, I enjoy food more. Fourth, my body is stronger and healthier. And last but not least, by doing this I’m thanking God for the gift He gave me.”

Needless to say, senior year was much much better than any other previous year. I used to wake up fresh with no annoying headaches, had good night sleeps, became more confident and comfortable with who I am, no backaches when walking, ability to concentrate, better performance in college, increased productivity, more interest in life, and generally happiness and contentment. So if you are overweight or obese and living a sedentary lifestyle, what are you waiting for? Start now! There’s a whole new life out there waiting for you.